The quality of your child’s attachment to you depends very much on your ability to consistently engage in several key behaviors with him or her. These include:
- your willingness to make yourself physically available to your child and to focus on him or her when you’re together
- your willingness to build new knowledge that might help you better interact with your child
- increasing your ability to read your child’s cues for help/assistance and to respond effectively to these
- increasing your ability to quickly and consistently respond to the needs of your child
- increasing your ability to respond to your child’s needs warmly and in ways that are appropriate and sensitive to their wants and needs
- improving your ability to play with your child in ways that support his or her interests rather than only your own preferences
- increasing your awareness of the signals your child sends when he or she is feeling overstimulated
